Zip it.

My entire life I've been known to be loud, maybe a little controlling, energetic, and anything else that falls into the "spaz" category.

I'm very hyper active.

I talk more than anyone I know.

Really.. I love talking. It's so fun :) LOL

I love to share my opinion. And what I love even more is when I share mine, someone shares their own, and I can share my opinion about their opinion about my opinion. Ha ha ha...

I have never known much patience.

I have never practiced much patience.

Besides with my kids, of course.

That is until now...

Marcus has brought out so much good in me and I see it every single day that I am with him. I am so very thankful for him. :)

I saw this free printable over at Shaunna West's blog {which I am new to, and can't wait to spend my day exploring! ;)}

What an amazing quote.

Love people first. Ask questions later.

Perfect reminder for the things my little family is facing right now. The past week has been kind of stressful. I've kind of forgotten a few vital things for a "good relationship". Marcus and I are usually on the same level, we are both very understanding of eachother and the things that happen around us. We're best friends and lovers. We trust one another 100%. We go to each other to talk, laugh, love, vent, and share ideas. But sometimes one person has a bad day, and their attitude reflects on that which causes your attitude to reflect on it-- IF you forget to remember this...

People have a "LOVE" jar. Their attitude is based off of how full or empty it is. Say your significant other goes to work and has mounds of paperwork to take care of in just a short couple of hours. Phone calls galore, invoices to prepare, files to finish. So they're mind is boggled. They leave work to see that they're car is on empty. Well, it's the week before pay day and they remember that you guys are short on money and just the thought of having to put in another $60 in gas this week gives them THAT much more stress. What about groceries? What about Valentines Day? What about diapers? They come home to you and/or your children to find that one of them is cranky. They get a phone call saying that they have a big bill that is overdue and if they don't pay it they are going to get more fees tacked on.

NOW-

Do you want to hound them with more questions- "How am I supposed to clean if you can't hold the baby?" "I'm so sick of being broke! I wish one of us could make more money." "Why don't you spend more one on one time with me? You make me feel like you don't love me as much as you used to!" I have learned that all you are doing is taking more out of their jar and that isn't going to make the situation any better.

I don't know about anyone else but I am a needy lover. I like to feel wanted and needed by my man and my kids. I enjoy taking care of them but I also like hearing that they enjoy it as well. My kids have no problem with this. Jackson especially! He tells me every day how much he loves me and how when he gets married, they will live with me and I will have more (grand)kids to take care of! If I ask why? His reply, "Because I want you to be in the same house as me forever!!" Okay then. :)

But as an adult, as a care giver, people tend to get caught up in every day life. It's hard to focus soley on showing affection when LIFE is stressful.

So instead of asking a million questions, or trying to find answers the moment you think about them, it would cause so much less aggrivation and fighting if you would just LOVE your spouse. Help them forget the stress. Ease their mind. Give them a neck massage. Cook them an extra special dinner. Forget about the dishes or making the bed and instead cuddle and watch a movie. Maybe take your thoughts and questions down in a notebook and once a week have a night where you discuss these things together. 

By changing this small but big thing in your relationship, you could change so much all around! By filling their jar up with more love, they are going to want to turn around and want to love you more so it's a win win situation. :)

Now if I could remember to practice this every day. ;)